The label rigid explosive kid cannot be found in the DSM-IV, the diagnosis reference manual for psychiatric defects. It is simply an outline for children who exhibit extraordinarily hard behaviors concerning paddies, rage attacks, meltdowns, and impulsivity.
The explosive kid has limited capability to conform and be flexible or adapt to life circumstances. They experience disappointment simply and hate to be informed “no!”
The explosive kid becomes overwhelmed simply and lack ordinary coping skills. When they reach their threshold they act out, behave irrationally, and can't control themselves. These kids hardly make a reaction to reasoning, regularly throw or break things, and display too much uncontrolled emotion.
These explosive children have a particularly low threshhold for stress, simply become annoyed and can't control their behaviors. These children could be extraordinarily concrete in their thinking, be rigid and unable to come to a compromise. They are frequently avoided or eschewed by peers, and considered to be bullies. They do not answer suitably to consequences or rewards, and even serious punishments have no positive impact. Actually there are not many behavior approaches that work at all for these children, leaving elders irritated and confused.
I am not satisfied the explosive kid is a product of “poor or dysfunctional parenting.” I am a believer however , that many of them experienced emotional injury or bleak stress at some specific point in their life regardless of if it was in the uterus, and this somehow “set them up” for almost all of the problem they have later along in life.
Some youngsters come into the world more emotionally difficult and volatile than others. These character features can often be seen from the day they're born, but if they also have received exposure to excess stress, change, doubt, or shock of any sort, it may increase their sensitiveness and reactivity. It might have been a worrying pregnancy, diet deficiencies, toxemia or gestational diabetes. Perhaps there was exposure to drugs, cigarettes, alcohol or heavy metals like lead, cadmium, copper or mercury, prior to or after their birth. Perhaps the mom or child was exposed innocently to molds or carbon monoxide smoke. Maybe the mummy and baby experienced birth injury, a long labor or loss of oxygen. Even if the kid was breast fed, there could have been allergies or sensitivities, because of the mother’s diet. Vaccines and antibiotics, high fevers, or exposure to toxins and chemicals, during infancy also cannot be overlooked, even in “easy” character children,
It’s exasperating for moms and pops, but it is more frustrating for these youngsters. Nobody enjoys being reprimanded or punished and singled out! It’s shaming and simply adds to all of their daily discontentment.
Most inflexible-explosive youngsters are boys who are ultimately diagnosed as suffering from ADHD, bi-polar, hysteria or obsessive-compulsive disorder. Some also have sensory processing defects that increase their stress. Few are ever diagnosed suitably! Many end up with a psychiatric doctor who prescribes adult drugs rather than giving them functional research and correct lab tests. Many of them have concealed toxicities, and food or environmental allergies causing their agitation, over-stimulation, evil temper and impetuous behaviors.
With my kid Matt it took 10 years and lot of NLP to find out that yellow and red food dyes lead him to become aggressive. He loved Kraft Mac and Cheese, Cactus Coolers, Hawaiian Punch and red licorice! He was in the sixth grade before we noticed he was also reactive to formaldehyde, in all the “portable” schoolrooms at college!
After one or two years of detective work my personal inflexible-explosive kid became controllable. There had been nothing simple about it, although it was better than drugging him and gave me the experience I required for the work I do today!
Amy Whitehouse is an Oxyelte Pro fan and Seattle Mortgage Broker who likes to argue family issues.
